"The cause of all negative emotions is a disruption in the body's energy system."Gary Craig
Some couples get caught in a web of love and hate and turn their hateful feelings and thoughts onto their partner. The feelings are very intense and both are convinced that the other is the CAUSE of their pain. Cooperation … Continue reading
A module in PAIRS Essentials for Couples is called Love Knots. There are 7 different love knots identified. These knots are beliefs that many couples hold onto or “belief” are true and they are not true. You can think of … Continue reading
If you really loved me then you would tell me. If you really loved me then you would do the dishes. If you really loved me then you would put the kids to bed at night. If you really loved … Continue reading
Technology is fun, exciting, a distraction, and not a relationship. I was struck by the number of people standing in line at a restaurant who was texting or talking on their phones. Opportunity to be here now was not happening. … Continue reading
The Queen in the fairy tale Snow White and the 7 Dwarfs looked into her magic wall mirror and asked, “Mirror, mirror upon the wall, who is the fairest of them all?” And the mirror responded, “Why you are the … Continue reading
There are times in everyone’s life where the feelings or thoughts are raw and we feel imprisoned by these feelings or thoughts. We are victimized and we are the one’s doing the torching. What do you do when feeling victimized … Continue reading
It was early Saturday morning and I was stopped at a red light. As I sat there a cyclist came peddling across the crosswalk and I noticed that he was peddling really fast, but hardly moving with respect to the … Continue reading
Most people when they think of being unfaithful to their partner they think it means having an affair. There are several ways you can be unfaithful to partner: emotionally, physically and financially. The financial aspect many times is overlooked as … Continue reading
Infidelity is a betrayal of the commitment you have made to your relationship. It does not matter if the commitment has been formalized with a marriage license or not. It is a betrayal of the trust that two people have … Continue reading
What is compassionate? It is the willingness to experience your feelings without blaming yourself or others. The biggest impediment to creating compassion is the feeling of shame. Shame doesn’t get a lot of press because it’s difficult to talk about … Continue reading